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Friday, January 01st, 2010 | Author: admin

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

new-year1The new year is the time everyone reflects back on the year that was and starts planning and making promises on what they will do in the new year. Then tradition of new years resolutions gets played out millions of times with everyone looking to be happier, healthier and wealthier. This has led to many people making the best decisions they could ever make in regards to thier mental and physical health which is to give up an addiction such as smoking marijuana, smoking cigarettes or drinking too much even.

If you plan to do this or are thinking it is a wise move there are a few statistics you should know:

  • 75% make it past the first week
  • 71% make it past the second week
  • 64% make it past the month mark
  • Only 46% get past the 6 month mark and are then back to their old habits

This is not designed to scare you away from making a resolution though. While more than half to fail to keep a resolutions there are a numb er of things you can do to help yourself  stay on the straight and narrow and achieve a lasting result.

  • Never make a resolution on an impulse especially is you are drunk or high.
  • Never make a resolution when you are in a negative frame of mind as a positive resolution is much more likely to succeed
  • Make a realistic goal for what you want to do. If you make it too over the top and it is unachievable then you may as well not make it because you are set up to fail.
  • PLAN YOUR GOAL! I cannot stress this enough. Make a plan to achieve what you want to do or your desires are just so much words on the wind.
  • Plan for a setback. We are not perfect and sometimes our desires for a better life do become muddied and you may break your resolution. Do not give up though, make sure you have a plan to get right back on with your goal even if you break your resolution because the process is a journey not an on/off button.

So if you are planning your new years resolutions take note, plan, be positive and you will achieve an end to your impulsive addictive behaviors! If you require some help for this task here are some resources for you to use.

Quit Smoking Marijuana

Quit Smoking Cigarettes

Quit Drinking

Quit Pornography Addiction

Thursday, April 16th, 2009 | Author: admin

One of the biggest obstacles many people face when trying to overcome pornography addiction is the incredible ease of access that you have to pornographic material via the internet. If you have trouble controlling your urges and constantly find yourself drawn to these sites no matter how hard you try not to then you are likely classed as a pornography addict which can be a serious problem.

While some may scoff at the thought of being addicted to sleaze on the net the reality is that porn and masturbation are a powerful mix as the high gained from viewing and climaxing over pornography releases many brain chemicals that can be a source of addiction much like the high of any other drugs. This is combined with ease of access as has been mentioned and the privacy of the act lead to cycle of impulsive behavior that becomes ingrained and hard to stop.

The causes for becoming addicted in the first place also play a part in overcoming pornography addiction. No one person is the same but a few common reasons people turned to porn and became enmeshed are:

  • Low self esteem
  • Sexual frustration
  • Escapism from problems
  • Depression
  • Even something as simple as boredom

This may seem obvious to some but when a simple act of release starts to dominate your entire life and starts to hurt your social life, health, friends and family then you know that something needs to change. IF you have come this far and have recognized the addiction and know something about what originally caused such an unhealthy obsession then you can start to take action to change your behaviors to overcome pornography addiction by controlling your browsing habits and also change the way you respond to stimuli.

Control

If you have tried to simply stop viewing porn and have found this to be impossible and you end up on adult entertainment sites again and again either through sloppy browsing or by letting some urge get a hold of you and opening your favorite bookmarked sites, then you need to find a way initially to remove as much temptation as possible. “Out of sight out of mind” can certainly be applied to this situation and the first step is to start with a clean slate:

  • Delete all porn from your computer, extra hard drives, USB sticks ANYTHING!
  • Get rid of all bookmarks, browsing history, internet cache and so forth.
  • Unsubscribe from all porn sites you have paid for or have passwords for.

Now that you have a clean slate you need to keep it that way too! The best way to stop yourself from accidentally stumbling on to porn sites is to get a porn blocking program. While it may seem silly a “net nanny” program (you can download through this link) is a good way to block out the kind of content that you are obsessed with. Many people who are trying to cut down on porn or quit often end up browsing porn without even realizing it then follow though out of habit, if you cannot access that content then you have shut out that aspect.

Another quick way to enforce this even further is to get someone else to put a password on it for you if there is someone you can trust to keep it secret so you cannot disable it.

Resolve Triggers

Once you have these methods of control installed and set up you need to do the real work to overcome pornography addiction which is to understand WHY you are addicted to porn and importantly what triggers your desire for it. Most people do not have an insatiable appetite for these things and function properly without porn until something triggers the need which in an addict’s case is very strong.

The causes of addiction listed above are a good place to start but may have evolved into something else along the way too. Think back to the times you have had a need to view pornography, or at least to the times you seem to stumble upon it again and again, what are you feeling at the time? Some examples of common cases:

“Every time I am the computer I run out of things to do and get bored. I know there are a million and one other things I could do but I always seem to go back to porn.”

“There is something relaxing about porn and masturbation, it is a lot easier than dealing with women in real life.”

“My wife never does the stuff that is in those videos, this just allows me to live out some fantasy without having her think me a pervert.”

In all of these cases you can determine some triggers: boredom, frustration, feelings of loneliness and so forth. If you take ownership of these triggers and understand them and when they occur you have a greater chance of not succumbing to this addiction.

Plan of action

Once you have determined some triggers you now need to have a plan of action against it. Some people may say to just go do something else and while the essence of this is true, it is too simple a way to put it.

Try to do something that either fulfills this trigger in a non-porn related way or is something that fights against this trigger so it will not happen any more. So if you are frustrated make a decision to do something that relieves some frustration without the use of pornography or take steps to make sure this frustration does not happen again. There are so many ways you can do this it is impossible to list as YOU have to make this decision as long as you know your triggers.

This is far from everything you need to know when overcoming pornography addiction but it will help you control your online browsing habits to curb your cravings. For more information on how to overcome porn addiction if you are an addict or if you are the partner of an addict click below to find out more.

Online Pornography Addiction Treatment

Thursday, February 26th, 2009 | Author: admin

Fighting porn addiction can seem like a battle with your own libido especially if you have been masturbating to online pornography for a long time for a number of reasons:

  • Anything done for a long time becomes a habit that can be so ingrained into your lifestyle it is hard to shake.

  • You have trained your body to expect sexual reward and the lack of such a reward becomes like a physical craving.
  • Ease of access means that relief to your frustrations and cravings is so easy to satisfy many continue to give in and do not gain addiction recovery.
  • Help is hard to come by because the subject is so taboo with most people making this a very lonely addiction.

So what can you do to fight porn addiction and come out on top and in control of your life and sexuality?

One such method that may help is to find a way to refocus your sexual energy. It is too easy to simply say i will do something else when i feel the need to pop online to view pornography but it is a part of the puzzle. The real results come from changing your mental addiction triggers to be positive rather than negative (being excessive porn and masturbation). When you discover what triggers your episodes online find something you can do to take your mind off it and stick to that, write it down and make it a new habit. It could be that you are depressed or sad which would require something targeting that particular trigger. It may be that you have sexually frustrating relationship issues which would require an approach aimed at solving that problem. One of the biggest problems though is boredom for many people and when online it is such an easy way to spend time despite the problems with sexuality that porn is known to cause .. if this is the case the best way to start changing this is to find a non-computer based alternative to relieve boredom because any association with the PC and the internet can easily lead down the path of addiction again.

For more information on fighting porn addiction for yourself or if you know someone who is addicted click below to find the answers you need to end your addiction and be unchained, free and happier with yourself and your sexual life without having to go to sex addiction counseling

http://www.kick-addiction.com/pornography-addiction/treatment/

Thursday, February 19th, 2009 | Author: admin

Any addiction can be an embarrassing affair as you admit to losing control of yourself to a substance or behavior and when the addiction is as taboo as masturbation and pornography it can be very difficult to get help from other people. Self help for internet porn addiction therefore is something that porn addicts desperately need to fight back against this psychological addition to the adult entertainment industry and to the rampant demands of their own libido.

Unlike going to a therapy center or using chemical replacement aides like some addictions overcoming porn addiction relies on understanding of your own mental state and above all, willpower. An overview of some of the main points of self help for porn addiction include:

Out of sight, out of mind.
The ease of finding pornography on the internet is astounding and so feeds addiction because it is so easy to get. To combat this you need to sit down at your PC while you are in a quitting mood (like now!) and delete all of your porn on your hard drive, delete all of your site histories, clear out your cache as well then delete any bookmarks of saved porn sites. Start clean and to stay clean install an adult site filter so you do not stumble upon porn sites accidentally and get drawn in that way.

Understand your addiction
Most addictions stem from a base psychological reason. Perhaps you are sexually frustrated or perhaps you have been doing it for so long it has become a habit you cannot live without (an orgasm addict) or maybe it stems from depression or anxiety and a need for release. Everyone is different but the only way to move forward is to understand this reason honestly so you do not blame the porn but instead know your weakness so you can act on it.

Motivation, Mindset and redirecting sexual energy
This is the hard bit but it can be done despite the sirens call of pornography. If you have your reasons to be free of internet porn addiction and a knowledge of why you are so hooked you are half way there and you just need a plan and a way to stay motivated along with a way to divert sexual energy to more productive things.

To find a complete guide to self help for internet porn addiction click below to discover how to be free of the world of smut for better sexual health, better relationships and more time to do thins that bring you joy not empty thrills.

http://www.kick-addiction.com/pornography-addiction/treatment/

Friday, February 06th, 2009 | Author: admin

Breaking any addiction is a complex process that involves understanding and action and how to break a porn addiction is just the same!

While this may seem simplistic lets look and see how important each one is and how they fail without each other.

Action

Action is important; if you procrastinate over doing something then you will never get it done. Most people suffering from addictive behavior lack the drive to take action. A smoker says he will quit on his birthday or new year, a gambler will quit after their next big win and so one but usually they continue to delay. Having the willpower to take action is something that no one can really help you with it has to come from a determination within yourself fueled by a vision of how much better your life will be when you cure yourself.
Such immediate actions for porn addiction include unsubscribing to porn sites, deleting all porn from your computer and blocking porn sites out with 3rd party software. These are good steps more for motivation than for effectiveness but reducing temptation is never a bad thing.
The problem comes when one takes action without a true understanding of their addiction. Action is a top down approach tackling the symptoms and very obvious aspects of the addiction but it does not remove the root cause of your addiction so the weed may once again grow in a moment of weakness undoing all the good you have done.

Understanding

Understanding helps you take a bottom up approach to overcoming porn addiction. This means you must first understand what your addiction is, how it is damaging your life and those around you and of course understanding you do actually have a serious problem.

Following this you must delve deeper into your psychological problems and investigate and understand the root causes of your addiction be it low self esteem, a warped view of women and sex or problems within your marriage perhaps? There are so many reasons and everyone is different so it must be you who comes to the final realization.

Armed with this knowledge you can take on these causes and find ways to come to terms with them and eliminate them from your life making you a stronger person and killing the weed at its base.

However, some people have an uncanny ability to over think things and investigate and understand but never get around to actually taking action! Nothing amount of soul searching will actually help you quit unless you have the will to take positive actions not only against the top down aspects mentioned but against the root problems which are a lot harder.

The motivation to do all this can be hard to come by but the sheer fact of the matter is that your future is in your hands and this is a battle that can be won if you apply yourself men tally and physically to the task. There are reams and reams of books written about motivation so I will not go into that here but provided you can keep the motivation and use these two tools you can be porn free before you know it!

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Wednesday, February 04th, 2009 | Author: admin

There is no easy answer to how to stop an addiction to porn as the real causes behind such a damaging habit are as varied as the bizarre sex acts you find in the adult entertainment industry! Without a one shot 12 step program or something of the like we must look for a more personalized solution that takes into account the fact that every case is different and every person responds to different methods of curing their problems.

It is recommended however that the first step should be to take action and remove the temptation by unsubscribing to porn sites and deleting all traces of porn from your computer as well as putting in place site blockers. The less temptations there are the more chance you have to find the real reasons behind your problem. It also gives a much needed motivational boost taking affirmative action directly against what plagues them but beware this can be a short term cure if the underlying problems are not addressed!

To really counter an addiction you need to understand the root cause of the addiction and take action against that or any other short term measure will eventually be overcome in a moment of weakness. Porn addiction is most often attributed to low self esteem and while this is not the only cause it is by far the most common. Why this may be depends on the person and overcoming low self esteem is a whole other fight you may have to win before you can cure your porn addiction. Whether this is your problem or it is something else an honest analysis without self deception or exaggeration is needed to isolate each issue and break them down into manageable chunks you can deal with one at a time.

So take action and get started one what may be a very personal journey of discovery, most addictions are not isolated problems but require an entire new look on life to break and if that is the case it can only be for the better so keep in mind all the good things that can come from breaking your addiction to porn and get out there and fight for your freedom and mental health!

Are you ready to kick your addiction but do not know where to start?
Do you want to quit first time and never go back to the old problems?
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Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 | Author: admin

Is there a porn addiction cure? The simple answer is yes, there are cures for any addictive behavior as it is not something hard coded into you that you cannot overcome, there is always a way to change the course of your life with some hard work and an honest and open mind.

All addiction is caused by some base issues that drive people to addictive behavior, most often it is used as an escape from something in their lives and becomes so ingrained it starts to take over their life destroying relationships and friendships and costing you enormous amounts of time and money!

To counter sickness of the mind like this the base cause of the problem must be identified and isolated so you can find a way to change yourself to overcome this. Just stopping excessive porn viewing will yield nothing in the long run unless the reasons behind it are not exposed and solved.

The most common cause of porn addiction is probably low self esteem which can manifest differently in every person so there is no one easy solution to the problem but as long as you can find this cause or perhaps others you have won your first major fight against addiction.

So when we talk about a porn addiction cure we are actually talking about a cure to a deep seated problem within someone’s psychological makeup that may have been festering there for years and years. How you solve these issues is something very personal and the entire psychiatric industry is still finding new and inventive ways to help or make money out of people with mental issues but the advice I offer is that if you are of strong enough will to find these problems honestly then you can take them, break them down into smaller little problems that you can find some way of reconciling or overcoming.

So is there a porn addiction cure? yes, but it has to be you who finds the solution as long as you have the right resources and support!

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Sunday, January 11th, 2009 | Author: admin

The shame of porn addiction can be overwhelming

The shame of porn addiction can be overwhelming

Step one: Do you admit you have a problem? Do you realize just how much damage porn addiction can do to your life and your relationships? Do you really want to know how to stop porn addiction? OR are you just hoping there is an easy one click cure?

If you are looking for a quick fix then the same problems that cause your porn addiction are still active within you and you will not get far. The ease of access to porn and instant gratification are what pulls most people into the world of porn addiction and since there is no one click cure those same instant gratification people stay mired in their problems and never choose the harder but more fulfilling and better path.

What does this mean? It means that any addiction is a major problem and any addiction requires you to be committed to solving it. To do this you must believe whole heartedly in the benefits of being cured of your addiction and you must be aware of what damage it is doing. Most importantly though you must understand and be aware of what actually originally caused you to begin your addiction.

While the instant gratification I mentioned is what makes it easy for you to become addicted the reason why you needed to seek such things out again and again is a whole different story and may be as varied as the bizarre sex acts you find in the adult entertainment industry!

Step two: Think back to when you started, and the reasons behind it, simple titillation maybe? Sure that can certainly be a reason but was there anything more? A frustration or a problem? Think back to when you started to be addicted but may not have know it, think back to when it started becoming a problem, the reasons were probably much different but linked none the less. As much as men are ruled by their hormones if you put aside simple horniness there is a deeper issue if you cannot overcome your base instincts when they cause damage to your life.

How to stop porn addiction lies with and understanding and acceptance of the reasons you started watching so much porn not where you are right now and requires a great deal of introspection and insight into your own soul and motives. Low self esteem is one of the most common aspects of porn addiction but the reasons surrounding this problem vary greatly from person to person so a personalized approach to a cure is needed.

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